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How to get your boy to kiss you – Working steps

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Why would you do something to get him to kiss you? A good question to ask and one possible answer might be this: the guy you like may be way too shy to do it all on his own. He may want it badly, and that should be the case with any normal guy and hot girl. Still, he may not be sure you want it; he may play the rejection scenario in his head, etc. So, your job is to make his job easier. Here is how you do it.

How to get your new boyfriend to kiss you on one of your first dates

Now, of course, you need to be sure he wants it, too. So, read the tips on how to find that out and get his body language right. If you are pretty sure he wants it, but for some reason hesitates, here what you can do to help him and get him started.

All these steps work really well when they are used together. So, do not act out any of them separately and try to make the whole thing flow smoothly and be a part of your flirting game.

1st step >>> Look at him


It is not just about the eye contact. There is more to it. Men like to dominate. They are the hunters. That is one reason why women usually do not initiate kissing. They let the men do that and feel their power. The trick is not just to look at him or maintain eye contact.

The trick is to show your vulnerability and submissiveness. Yes, you can be strong, and you can be an achiever. It has nothing to do with it. It’s a game, and you should play your part in it. Here is what Lauren Oliver had to say about the first kiss:

“My first kiss. A new kind of kiss, like the new kind of music, still playing, softly, in the distance—wild and arrhythmic, desperate. Passionate.”

Here is what you do: you bow down your head a bit and sort of look up to him. Bring down your chin and look into his eyes. Draw a little closer to him and shift your gaze from his eyes to his lips. And then return to the eye contact. Do not maintain it too long, though. Be playful and open.

2nd step >>> Draw closer and touch


First, touch is an ice breaker. At times, guys hesitate to touch girls or do not know how to do it. So, make your body language clear to him. If you stand or sit next to him, draw a bit closer and make yourself more available. Touch his hand or even take his hand in yours. Lean towards him gently. Keep on doing that lip-eye look thing.

Do not make any rapid movements. Be playful and soft. If the guy does not act upon your signals, you would preserve your dignity and would be able to move away from him.

3rd step >>> Laugh!


Laugh at his jokes, even the dumb ones. The guys are told by dating experts to look for such signs. So, use them. Smile at him, laugh at his jokes or just playfully laugh while speaking to him. It really does not matter what you talk about. Let your bodies talk and communicate. Watch for his reactions. Tune up to him and let him lead, but orchestrate his actions and guide him in the right direction.

Sure enough, you do not want to be caught doing it. So, be smart and flirt well. Even if you lead, let him think he does it all on his own. That would boost his self-esteem and make the game easier for you.

4th step >>> Bite or lick your lip


This thing has to be done in moderation. Do not overdo it. You may also gently finger your lips once in a while. But do not go crazy over things like that. Yes, guys are told to look for such signs, but they should appear to them happening naturally. You do not wish a guy to know you acted the whole thing out just because you wish to be kissed by him.

5th step >>> Face him


Try to lean toward him and also turn your face towards him. This shows your interest in him and in kissing in particular. Plus, it makes things easier for him. And when you talk to him facing him, make your voice soft and seducing. Choose the right body posture that would show your availability and interest.

Morgan Matson once said:

“And we were kissing like drowning people breathe—like suddenly we’d discovered something that has never been so sweet before that moment.”

The whole thing before the kiss is the part of the game. It is the anticipation of miracle and pleasure. So, create that atmosphere of wonder and expectation. Be playful, but eliminate the barrier and try to quench all his fears of rejection. After all, that is the main thing that stops guys from taking an initiative and kissing girls.

Final step >>> Flirt – Make him kiss you


Pick up a conversation and direct it into this area. Talk about sex, pick a hot topic and make it playful. That would surely turn his thoughts in the right direction (if that has not happened already). And do the talk accompanied by all the above-described techniques.

Remember that boy read tips on ‘how to learn if she wants a kiss’ topics. Read some of that stuff, too. If they know about the “signs,” just follow them and give him what he is looking for. That is one of the best tips you can receive on how to get a man to kiss you for the first time. And, if that does not work well for you, you may just go ahead and kiss him.

If he has been too shy or insensitive to your signals, he would just love it, but if he is not into you, then why wasting your time?