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Remember These 5 Things When Trying to Get Over an Ex

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Being dumped is a horrible experience, especially if it’s not a mutual thing. There you are picking out china patterns and names for your children, while they are trying to find a way to dump you without shattering your heart into a million pieces.

For those of us who are ignorant that there is trouble in our relationship when our partners sit us down to have “The Talk,” it can feel like you’ve been blindsided and you’re left reeling from the experience.

As much as you’d like to get try and make your ex see the error in deciding to break up, it’s important that you remember these five things.

How to Get Over Your Ex Tips:

 

1. Don’t Give Them Your Attention or Energy

It’s understandable that you’re going to feel emotionally broken after your partner breaks up with you. You have a right to be angry and upset! But, instead of actively pining for your ex, use that energy in a way that is going to be productive; instead of letting those negative feelings get you down.

2. Not All Breakups Hurt the Same

Healing from a break up is going to be different from person to person, but also from the break up to break up. You may have been dumped in the past and accepted it fine, but this time it just hurts so much more. You have to allow yourself to feel the feelings as they occur. By trying to push them away and act like everything is fine, you’re just setting yourself up for a breakdown further down the road.

3. You Have to Want to Move On

In order to truly move on from an ex, you have to want to move on. This is one of those things that you simply cannot “fake it ‘til you make it” type of things. Not only are you not doing yourself any favors, but it’s not fair to be with someone if you aren’t over your ex.

4. Be Open to New Experiences

Being dumped is one of those experiences that will leave you with an empty heart and an empty schedule. All that time that you would normally spend with your partner is now vacant and you might be at a loss of what to do. We say fill your time with new experiences and new people! This is the perfect time to find a new hobby, start volunteering or just reconnecting with old friends.

5. Take Your Time!

A lot of people believe that there is a time limit on how long you can mourn the end of a relationship. Sometimes friends will pressure you to go out on a date before you’re ready to, and that’s when you have to put your foot down. Don’t let anyone tell you when you need to begin dating again! Only you can determine when your heart has healed enough to go out with someone new. If you don’t want to begin dating for a few months or even years after a hard breakup, so be it.